Sunday, September 17, 2006

Patel Snaps*

( * Patel snap is a funny name given to those typical desi snaps taken at points of major interest, with the entire family beaming a cheesy smile in the foreground. However, I think we still have ways to go in this department if we have to catch up with the japaneese. )

Before I left for my trip to Wyoming, I proclaimed to a lot of my friends that there is a good chance that I might not see any desi for next 5 days, considering I was visiting some of the most remote states in US. Most of the first day was spent in Salt Lake City, which from my previous visits is easily the whitest place I have visited. During the first day we travelled through Utah, Idaho, Montana and finally landed up in Wyoming. Of the all the cars I peeped into, and all the gas stations we stopped at I recollect seeing only 1 non-white guy. It was at Idaho Falls, and probably this black guy was happy to see me too, cause he walked up to me and asked me the location of the restroom. ( An aside, Why is calling someone black derogatory, but calling someone white perfectly OK ?)

During my limited camping experience, I have never seen desis camp, and this record was maintained intact over the next 4 days. My non-desi sighting continued for about a half a day, till I saw a small desi family take a hike at Midway Geyser basin. Desi meetings at tourist spots are always awkward. Both the crossing party seemed to be deeply involved in their discussion as they approach each other. But when they are in each other's vicinity, suddenly there is a deathly silence. Some look to the ground, some look to the sky or some just look away. There is intense feelings, but there is no eye contact - and once the paths have been crossed, there is invariably a chuckle or a snide remark. Its strange that the same person who would react gleefully and greet total stranger of a completely different race and culture, would lapse into a lull while meeting someone of the same kind.

Given the inaccessibility of Yellowstone, I wasn't expecting to see more than a handful of desis in the park, but I was proven wrong when I visited the big restaurant at Old Faithful. Here, I saw atleast 50 of them. And as my friends gave me a hard time at every sighting, I debated what could be the reason for this phenomenon.

Old faithful is definitely the most popular and most easily accessible part of the park. Why is it that we always horde at easily accessible places, and avoid places like the campgrounds and backpacking trails. Places like Niagara falls, Grand Canyon are always flooded with desis, but at the same time, if you drive up to Glacier National Park in the wilderness of Montana, you would hardly find any of our kind. Are we not adventurous enough ? Why dont we go the extra distance to see things which are undoubtedly more beautiful ?Why should these activities be restricted only to the whites ? Very rarely do you see desis or for that matter any non-whites, pull off at a road in wilderness and walk to the snaking river or taking a dip in lake or for that matter backpacking in wilderness. Are we not as flexible as people over here ?

ps: Why do you never see afro-americans in National Parks ?

14 comments:

Jinguchakka said...

We Indians as a race are a bit conservative lot. Only bachelors take all kind of adventurous trips. But when one takes their parents around, one like to stick to popular places. i.e.popular in India. On return to India, "I've been to Niagara" carries more value than "I've been to some hillbilly county in Wyoming. wow! what a terrain!"
And I agree with you about the interaction or lack of it when two desis pass by.

Anarkist said...

Who says calling a black person black is derogatory? I guess it will most likely offend the whitey more than a black person. The media is always pushing the limits of what is PC. Apparently its not PC to call a Jew a Jew. You are supposed to say "a person of the Jewish faith". What the hell?! Besides, why do you care about not calling a black person black, but have no second thoughts on using a term like "Patel Snap", which is narrow mided stereotyping of the very diverse Patel community, many of which I'm sure are great photographers too?

And the reason why desis exchange strange glances when the pass each other in a National Park is because both of them are equally surprised to see another desi hiking, since both were thinking, as you were, that only they are the sole torchbearers of the adventurous desi community.

nice try said...

doesnt the old adage go that familiarity breeds contempt?

desis in the us are pretty much outsiders and will be inclined to do "touristy" things .. its the same thing with non-desis is india right .. you wouldnt possibly imagine a desi doing the kind of "spiritual" tours that the non-desis do there ..

often the more publicly visible places offer a low-risk better return of investment (time, money etc) than the exotic and possibly more adventurous opportunities available --it would seem natural to stick to the tried and tested alternative of going to the touristy places.

that said .. i havent been to niagara and god forbid that i should be photographed in the vicinity of a tourist spot!

totti said...

Agree with Nice Try! this isn't just plain desism it is general loathing of all human kind except for...

Dude, West indies kicked aussie ass...wait for the next game, aussies will be chucked out by indians too :D..both the east and west indies in the final ...

Point 5 said...

@JC...I beg to differ that bachelors take all kinda adventurous. Infact my main gripe was with the younger generation. I dont expect my parents to backpack with me, but I c that even younger junta resign to visiting conveniently accessible places....Its something to do with our upbringing back home, which never cultivates this adventurism...

@Anarkist...Patel Snap is a a word know to very very few, and I have no fear of any big repercussions while using it...besides I am unaware of anyone expressing dissent over it..

But as I said, I am never sure when u can call someone black and when u can't..even the media uses it liberally, but used in normal conversation ppl immediately point that it is politically incorrect.

@Nice Try...I am not against touristy things...I can imagine non-desis going on a week long himalya expeditions, but yet I cannot imagine a significant desi crowd doing that..

@Totti...You have been so blinded by anti-desism that you are incapable of appreciating anything written on those lines, even if they happen to be true...

35/5 in 8 overs...dream on Baby !!!

Anarkist said...

So the only reason you don't call a black person black is because you are afraid of the repurcussions? In that case, it doesn't matter because you'll still be a racist (and also a desist) since it doesn't change who you are and its only fear of someone kicking your ass and a general contempt for other people thats guiding your actions.

Point 5 said...

fear of someone kicking your ass and a general contempt of other people thats guiding your actions

...isn't that true for everyone...It might sound righteous to say that ur actions should be solely governed by your convictions...but unfortunately thats now how the world works..sub-consciously you do several things which are solely dicated by the law above...think about it..

Besides I dont consider calling someone black, white or brown as rasicm. If you can call someone short, fat, bald or old...why can you not call them by their color. Now if you start associating the color with certain attributes and stereotype it...then that is not correct...

Anonymous said...

hahahaha.......the things you come up with man......chill dude !!! you think too much !!!
- R.S.

Point 5 said...

@R.S ...blame it on all the spare time that I have...

by the way, I am still not sure about your identity....I am sure I know you, but I know more than 1 R.S....

Rohan Kumar said...

Ridhham Shah strikes :)

Anonymous said...

no it's not Mr. R. Shah...take a guess, i'll offer a clue if you need one....

anyhow...since ppl regularly read your blog, here is an interesting MIT study....

https://websurvey.mit.edu/india/india

is that a good clue or what :)
-- R.S.

Point 5 said...

@R.S...I have been fortunate enough to know a few people who have made it to that elite school in Boston...Is this Ragha ?

Anonymous said...

nah...sorry to disappoint you....the clue there was IIT, not MIT :-)
-- R.S.

Anonymous said...

Patel shots :) Made me chuckle, as we always talked like that too - Patel shots/BTDT shots (been-there-done-that) etc. Hilarious.

Desi hiking is way on the rise. This is an old post, but when hubs & I used to hike when we were DINKs (yeah yeah, double-income-no-kids, so I like me my acronyms, so sue me ;)) we used to run into desis every which where. While there were fewer in inland Alaska than say Yosemite, we always found at least one!

And we always made it a point to smile and greet them on the trail, usually just to see their flustered reaction ;) (Why, yes, we do rather enjoy our cheap thrills ;))

-V
www.outdoordesi.com