Saturday, August 12, 2006

When are you going back to India ? - II

I had written this piece of fiction long ago, and felt I should archive it alongside the last post.

Hari grew up in a small nondescript town in the outskirts of vellore district in Southern India. But that didnt prevent him from dreaming big. He had seen his california based Uncle flash his nike shoes and GAP shirts and heard him talk about 16 laned highways and blonde bombshells. This had instilled a constant yearning for the WEST in Hari's mind.

Hari lived in a small 5 bedroom house shared by 19 close relatives. When Hari was a kid, he would play cricket with his friends in the arid fields behind his house. After a tiring day of game, he and his friends would take a dip in the Vaigai river, without caring for the buffaloes and naked seers swimming nearby. But as he grew up, the lure of the WEST made him detest most of these mundane things which he would otherwise enjoy. He would get peeved at his ever doting relatives and scream for more privacy; He would refuse to take part in the silly game of cricket and surely refrain from taking a dip into the "polluted" river. He had determined that he wouldnt follow the beaten path tread by his relatives and settle in this sleepy town. He had decided he would move to the WEST, strike riches and make a bright future. Before retiring every night, Hari would look at the post card of Manhattan that his uncle provided and dreamt of the land far far away.

But sheer determination and hard work reaped rewards, as Hari got a chance to study in a very prestigious school in Chicago. As Hari's relatives wept at his departure, Hari couln't resist his excitment at this opportunity. Although he experienced a culture shock when he landed in the West, he never felt nostalgic. It was a matter of time before Hari embraced the new place and new culture and started making the most of it. Inspite of a less than moderate stipend from his school, Hari could still afford luxuries which he had only dreamt of back in Vellore. His excellent grades landed him with a plump job in San Francisco as he started enjoying the ostentatious display of wealth that built the golden state of California.

Hari finally found the love of his life and tied the nuptial knot soon after, in a temple in Livermore, CA in a quaint little ceremony marked by absence of his parents and loved ones. With the luxury of a dual income household, Hari could afford a great house overlooking the bay, and also bought a luxury sports car. His kids grew up as American citizens playing baseball instead of cricket and munching Hershey's instead of cadburys. As he changed status from F1-H1-green card-US citizen his riches grew, his lifestyle improved, but somethings remained the same. For instance, Hari had a close knit relationship with a lot of Indians as well as Internationals, but at times of adversity he would always fall back at his Indian colleagues. He would always cherish and long for social gathering of his fellow nationals than any other company.

Once he was satiated by his drive for wealth and fame, Hari took time out to ponder over his looming future and his hectic past. Life had been one long sprint since he moved to his dream land. In his quest to the finish line, he had failed to stop and appreciate the moments of joy that passed him. During periods of deep introspection Hari would ask himself only one question, "Afterall, was it worth anything ?". In moments of solitute he would think of his relatives, the cricket, and the river. Through emails Hari would learn that most of his relatives still stayed in touch with each other and lived contented in absence of a materialistic pursuit. It seemed like life had finally slowed down for Hari, but the pace hurt him rather than healing him.

Finally, nostalgia got better of him, as he decided to return back to his hometown and settle for a laid back style of life. But to his dismay, things had changed more than what he had imagined. His 2 storied wooden house was replaced by a 25 storied skyscraper. The arid field, where he played cricket were turned into concrete jungle. Kids no longer played cricket in the open air, instead they played it on LAN. He could no longer swim in Vaigai as it had turned into a tourist hang out spot, and you had to book 3 months in advance to get a cottage by the lake.

After paying 300 Rs entrance fees, Hari sat next to the lake reading the mail from his son informing of his plans to marry an American, his wife's affair with their chineese neighbour and his daughters move to an independent house with her fiance. As tears streamed down his cheek, his memory jogged him to a time 38 yrs ago when his Uncle first told him about GAP, Nike and the blondes.

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

Pointy,

The articles (I and II) were interesting, but a little less balanced that I would have liked - designed, I guess, to encourage posts. One small point, no one is ever going to be sure how things turn out - so should that prevent us from experimenting and pursuing our dreams?

-Anshul

Kausum said...

"Finally, nostalgia got better of him, as he decided to return back to his hometown and settle for a laid back style of life. But to his dismay, things had changed more than what he had imagined. His 2 storied wooden house was replaced by a 25 storied skyscraper. The arid field, where he played cricket were turned into concrete jungle. Kids no longer played cricket in the open air, instead they played it on LAN. He could no longer swim in Vaigai as it had turned into a tourist hang out spot, and you had to book 3 months in advance to get a cottage by the lake. "

This did not take even 5 years for the place where I stayed. It became the most happening place in Bombay with huge malls, call centers. This time, I missed the open space, the place where we flew kites or caught fishes.

But, surely, When are you going back to India, raises a lot of questions, which one needs to answer after looking at India currently. Most of us here have a baseline India when we left the country.

Kausum said...

and at times Nostalgia is just glorified cribbing. Not all the times, but sometimes, it sure is.

Anarkist said...

Thats a rather pessimistic view of things, and I totally agree with Anshul here. Besides, Hari did have a successful life, right up till the end atleast. His kids turning out the way they did (which aint that bad in the first place) and his wife having an affair and his small town changing drastically can hardly be blamed on his being in the US.

Anonymous said...

This is pure fiction, right? So it's displaying an extreme scenario. But the nuances are very nice, and very real, if one doesn't take the "Ending" to be the only message. i was quite moved.

abecedarian said...

Point5 exapnd on. It would be a worthy competition to the Namesake.

Point 5 said...

@Anshul..I agree I might have painted a kinda extreme picture, but again, balance is subjective. Agreed that we don't know how things turn out, and we need not have a long term plan for the future.

@Kausum...I agree, things have been changing at an amazing pace, and even my trip after 1 year, I notice considerable change in the lifestyle and attitude of some of my friends.

@Anarkist..I don't think it is pessimisstic. Infact, if I was Hari, I would be rather satisfied with my life. The wife's affair episode is trifle unsettling :), but on the whole I wouldn't mind being Hari.
What I wanted to bring about though , is that he returns to India only to find it is not much different from US, and he fondly reminiscenses his yesteryears.

@the_girl_from_ipanema...Fiction is nothing but pieces of disjoint facts strung together. The scenario might be extreme, but it is not as sad as it seems. Hari did realise all his childhood dreams.

@Abecedarian..Sambit, I am sorry, I did not understand what u meant.

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abecedarian said...

Its about a novel by Jhumpa Lahiri called Namesake which has a similar story as your post tracing the life of an Indian expat family in the US ... particualrly the contrast between the second and the immigrant generation. Sightly more gloomier than your account though :)

Point 5 said...

@Sambit....I haven't read Namesake. I have read only 1 short story book of Jhumpa Lahiri (forget the name), and I liked only 1 out of the 12 or so stories..

@Chaitanya....The ending is a trifle sad cos Hari came back home to enjoy the pleasures he left behind when he went to WEST, but much to his dismay he could not realise it..I don't think we want our country to be like US. We can emulate them on some of the good aspects like infrastructure, standard of living etc....but India maintains its unique identity in being diverse...a capitalist chain culture will destroy that...

M (tread softly upon) said...

I agree what you have here is an extreme case. There are plenty of NRIs who have settled own abroad and led fulfilling lives. Whether they indulge in nostalgia and wish for for Hari did, returning home after all those years I don't know for sure. But I've also seen some people who do go back and be miserable about it. Because the india that they rememeber is not there anymore. We live in the past and we're stuck.
I once met an elderly man whom I had asked whether he wants to go back to India when he retires (he was retiring in 2 months at that time). And he told me that he had made one mistake in his life. He had settled in the US and deprived his children the love and affection of their grandparents. Now he is not going to make the same mistake a second time by returning to India and depriving his own grandchildren the love and affection that he can shower them with if he lives in the US. So sometimes people do compromise and end up being happier people.

Point 5 said...

@M...your story about the grand dad is touching...and it is important that ur personal happiness is more important than some b.s reasons like culture, society etc

Anonymous said...

you know Arun, just this one thing that might be asymptotically aligned to this post......the recent killing of that Ujjain professor....and the resulting realization of just how depraved the social fabric in india is becoming........so, when ARE you going back to THAT india ??? :-)
-- R.S.

Anonymous said...

1) Is there a "best practices" manual on how and when to go back to India. I am seriously looking for it because I am financially and career-wise not ready to go back.
2) The biggest plus in USA is the space. Any human being social or not need some space to enjoy nature as it is. That is very difficult to get in India. Yes, one can go out and travel. But when you just started a career you like to indulge in "space" related comfort. So I think Indians and Chinese who come and work in USA make themselves happier and satisfied people.
3) But ultimately people are more important than land. I long for joint families. So I decided to go back. When? It is a big challenge. Probably the last challenge of my life.